I realized that I love the sound of typing on my laptop. It is somehow relaxing, just like raindrops on the window. The past two weeks have had some ups and downs, but overall I am mentally in a really good place right now. I enjoy the simplest things such as a big warm bowl of oatmeal in the mornings, my pink journal that gets fulfilled with my thoughts as soon as I wake up. I have a big glass of warm lemon water. I love it. I am really a morning person as you can probably already tell. There is something magical in waking up before everyone else does (my alarm goes off at 5:45 most days). It’s like waking up with the sun. Don’t get me wrong, there are mornings where I hate myself for setting my alarm that early, but you get used to it at some point. And in a long run, it feels amazing. But that’s not what I’m going to talk about today.
My best friend asked me a question one day. She said she wanted to be happy in the future but has no idea what is she supposed to do. That is the answer I get from everyone who I ask, what’s their biggest goal in life – ‘I want to be happy’. And I can’t help but wonder, are you not happy right now? That got me questioning what does it take to feel happiness? Is it a lot of money, is it family, friends? Is it traveling…? etc. If it’s supposed to be all these things then why are so many people who have that, still unhappy?
Sometimes we think that happiness is something material. Something that you can achieve. But when we get it, then what? Most events in our life are neutral. (Most, because it’s not a good event when someone dies in an accident, but anyway, that’s not my point.) What makes them good or bad, is the way we think about them.
Have you heard of the phrase, ‘happiness is a choice’? It really sounds like a cliche, but it is actually as simple as that. You have a choice every time something happens in your life – ‘good’ or ‘bad’. I live on my own and I have to cook myself food to stay alive. I am not the biggest fan of cooking, because first, I have to decide what I want to eat, second, I have to get necessary stuff from the store, third, I have to cook it. It takes a lot of time. But I can’t avoid it. It is now my choice if I think of it as an obligation or a privilege.
And I chose to think of it as a privilege. I am lucky to live in a society where I can actually choose what I want to eat. There are millions of people who don’t even get to eat every day. I am lucky that I have a big grocery store within a 5-minute walk. I have to be grateful for that.
This is just one example of how small things happiness starts with. The big answer is gratitude. If you don’t know how to be grateful for the people who care about you, for the things that you own, for the opportunities you have, you’ll never be truly happy. You will always be itching for something more, even if you already have everything you need right in front of you. Life is simple. Happiness is simple. Not always easy but still simple. Next time you have something to complain about, take a moment to think if it really is a bad thing?
I could talk about this topic for hours but I’m not intending to write a book here so if you have any objections or thoughts about happiness, do write them in the comments. Otherwise, I have to discuss it further with myself in my pink journal.